Seattle Sexuality Resources

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This guide to Seattle's sex-positive resources is intended only for adults, and assumes familiarity with safer sex precautions as well as the self-discipline necessary to practice them.

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Starting Points

These resources may be considered good starting points because participation in them is open regardless of gender or orientation, and because they strive to serve many different parts of this region's sex-positive culture.

The Center for Sex-Positive Culture
is a non-profit organization which operates a real-life, membership-based community center for the benefit of the Pacific Northwest's sex-positive culture. Currently housed in a 4400 square foot main building (with several annexes) near downtown Seattle, this organization is unique in that it strives to serve all the local communities which comprise its region's sex-positive culture (e.g., the BDSM community as well as elements of the swing community, and everything around and in-between). This organization is a good starting point because it offers a wide variety of events, classes, dances, vendor fairs, informal social evenings, guest speakers, an extensive library, and discussion/support groups, with something almost every night of the week, and because gender and orientation are not barriers to membership (for example: single men are as welcome as single women). See for information on becoming a member as well as their current event schedule, and for information on their annual campout called ``Paradise.'' It's also worth noting that several local merchants offer 10% discounts to current CSPC members, including Babeland, Wild at Heart, and The Crypt. Finally, if you're a current or former CSPC member, then you might also enjoy looking at the following old photographs of what the CSPC's main building looked like in 1953, 1958, 1969, and 1999.
is one of only a small handful of sex toy stores across the country which would be comfortable to almost anybody, and serves a unifying and welcoming role in our area similar to that of the CSPC. In addition to knowledgeable and friendly staff, and a selection of the best available sex toys, movies, and books, this shop offers flyers and networking information for other local organizations along with excellent monthly classes (see their web site for details). Babeland is located at 707 E Pike Street in Seattle's Capitol Hill neighborhood. See for directions.

The Swing Community (aka ``The Lifestyle'')


Club Sapphire
is Seattle's newest club, with a permanent and modern facility in Tukwila which features both a large social/dance area as well as numerous play rooms of various sizes (including private areas). Events are currently being hosted every Wednesday and Saturday, most Fridays, and some Sundays. More information is available at
Eros Events
hosts events on the third Friday (and some first Fridays) of every month at a Redmond retreat center with a unique indoor heated pool. More information is available at
Pacific Sex-Positive Group
hosts events on the third Saturday of every month, as well as an annual campout. More information is available at


Northwest Couples and Bi Females
sponsors one second Saturday nightclub get-together and one third Friday restaurant get-together for its members every month, as well as an annual campout. More information is available at

The BDSM/Leather/Fetish Community

Seattle's BDSM community is particularly active and vibrant, and is distinguished from similar communities in other cities by its relative ease of entry as well as by its unusually low levels of separation/misunderstanding between its gay men's leather community, its gay women's leather community, and its ``pansexual'' leather community. [Note: This has been a defining characteristic of Seattle's BDSM community for some time, and largely stems from the various communities which comprise it sharing physical space to an unusual degree. The legendary ``KC'' parties, held from 1989-1994 on reserved nights at a local on-premise swing club, attracted almost the entire BDSM community due to the physical beauty and size of the space. From 1995-1999, a Capitol Hill restaurant called ``Beyond the Edge Café'' served as a nexus for the entire community due to its central location and friendly management. After this restaurant's closure and the Center for Sex-Positive Culture's subsequent opening in 1999, the CSPC (in part due to its size and in part to the inclusive nature of its mission) has had a similarly unifying effect.]


The Center for Sex-Positive Culture
hosts a wide variety of events for the BDSM community every month, including social events, workshops, guest speakers, and discussion groups. See for more information on becoming a member.
hosts BDSM-related workshops in their store fairly frequently, which anyone may register for. See for a current schedule.
The Seattle area has a long-standing tradition of informal BDSM community social gatherings at local restaurants (see for background). The best way to find the current list is to sign up for a free FetLife ( account and search for the group Seattle_Talking

For the Men's BDSM/Leather Community

Seattle Men in Leather
is a social and educational organization for the Seattle men's leather community. SML hosts a variety of events for their members, including brunches, dress code socials at The Cuff (their home bar), and club nights at two of Seattle's men's bathhouses. They also host an annual run called ``Equinox'' and a monthly ``Tribal Instinct'' men-only educational workshop. See for details.
Leather Bars
Although not restricted to men, Seattle's leather bars are definitely geared towards men. The two most popular bars are The Cuff (1533 13th Ave, see and the Seattle Eagle (314 East Pike Street, see The Eagle is smaller, and has a ``rougher'' feel, while the Cuff features a full dance floor and an expanded kitchen.

For the Women's BDSM/Leather Community

Women's Welcoming Committee
Monthly meetings, open to women only, which provide an introduction to all that's available in the Seattle area. Questions are welcome, and experienced players are also welcome to attend and share their perspective. See for details.
Seattle girls of Leather
A group of self-identified Leathergirls which hosts monthly meetings as well as a discussion board, performs outreach at Leather events throughout the Puget Sound area, and volunteers for a variety of non-profit organizations. See for details.

Other Seattle BDSM/Leather Resources

Leather Reign
An annual Seattle leather community conference focusing on D/s, more advanced how-to workshops, and the ``why'' of BDSM. See for details.
Bondage Lessons by Max
Customized workshops and classes on bondage technique. See
The Palms Seattle
A mixed gender spanking group, which hosts one social dinner a month, a monthly video review brunch, and a monthly ladies luncheon. See


The Center for Sex-Positive Culture hosts an event called ``Grind'' every Thursday, distinguished from similar events in Seattle by the fact that their facility is alcohol-free and smoke-free, and by the fact that play equipment and space are provided. Another popular spot (generally with more of a goth crowd) is the private club known as Mercury ( Fetish, gothic, or at least black clothing is the norm in each case.

Classes on various types of sexy dancing are available through (for example) the Academy of Burlesque (see

Men's Bathhouses and Clubs

These clubs are intended for men who have sex with men. As a practical matter, if you have unsafe sex at places like these (ESPECIALLY anal intercourse without a condom), no matter what the guy you met there looks like or what he tells you, then you may be clinically insane: safer sex is always important, but here it's particularly important.

is located at 1520 Summit (see It has a traditional men's bathhouse layout.
Club Z Baths
is located at 1117 Pike Street (see This club seems to attract an especially diverse clientele, and hosts Seattle Men in Leather's club night on the second Thursday of each month.

Spiritual Sexuality Classes and Workshops

Body Electric School
This school offers both its men's and women's courses in the Seattle area. See for details.
The Present Sense
Robyn Lynn, instructor. See
Learning Tantra
Tanja Diamond, instructor. See
Sacred Exploration
Betty Martin, instructor. See
Kissing School
Cherie Byrd, instructor. See

Erotic Arts Events

Seattle Erotic Art Festival
This annual erotic art festival has gathered national attention for the quality of its offerings. Some art is offered for display only, some for sale, and some for auction. Represented are typically some of the best erotic artists working today, though artists at any stage of their careers are encouraged to submit their work to the festival committee for consideration. See for information.

Polyamory Resources

Seattle Polyamory Meetup Group
Hosts socials on the second Tuesday of every month. See for more information.
Poly Potlucks
A long-standing Seattle tradition, these events are held on the third Sunday of every month. After a potluck dinner, attendees break into small groups to discuss some aspect of polyamory, as it applies to their lives. See for more information.
Poly Campouts
Polycamp (see has been held each year since 2004: they've been well-received so far, and will probably continue to grow in attendance over the next several years.

Crossdressing Resources

Emerald City Social Club
An active social organization for the crossdressing community. See
Esprit Gala
An annual convention for the Pacific Northwest's crossdressing community. See

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgendered Resources


Seattle's annual Pride Parade and Rally brings together hundreds of community and community-friendly groups, and attracts about 100,000 people. See for details.
The Seattle Gay News (the print version of which is published weekly) maintains a comprehensive event calendar for the local GLBTQ community. See
A resource specifically for gay, bi, lesbian, or trans survivors of abuse is The Northwest Network, see

For Gay or Bi Men

Gay City
A remarkably forward-looking organization for gay men. See
Northwest Bears
The term ``bear'' is often used to describe men with facial hair, a cuddly body, and a solid level of comfort with their own masculinity and body size. Northwest Bears is one of Seattle's organizations for bears and their admirers, see
Lifelong AIDS Alliance
Offers monthly workshops on issues such as sex, relationships, dating, intimacy, and safer sex. See
The Olympians
A gay men's nudist organization which has been hosting events since 1987. See for more information.
Rain City Jacks
``A non-profit, private JO club for adult men in the Seattle area, hosting several monthly JO events in a highly erotic, fraternal and sex-positive atmosphere.'' Their mission statement is: ``To promote and facilitate group masturbation for adult men, expand our individual sexual awareness, celebrate the basic goodness of our sexual impulse, and build a culture of mutual respect and dignity among our fellows.'' See for more information.

For Lesbian or Bi Women

The Wildrose
Seattle's women's bar. See for details.

For Bi Men and Women

BiNet Seattle
A social organization for bisexual or bi-curious people and their partners. They sponsor weekly discussion/support group meetings, one monthly social, and periodic special events (e.g. their annual picnic). See The BiNet Seattle web site also offers information on the Seattle Bisexual Men's Union (which hosts monthly gatherings) and Boys Time Out (which hosts monthly gatherings for bisexual men who are ``married or otherwise interested in women'').

For the Transgendered Community

Ingersoll Gender Center
A comprehensive counseling and referral center for those in any stage of questioning their gender identity. IGC hosts weekly support/discussion groups, monthly educational events, and a monthly book group. See
Gender Odyssey
An annual conference for the gender variant and their families, partners, and allies. See
Anne Lawrence, MD, Ph.D.
Practices clinical sexology and transgender medicine. Specialties include gender identity issues and transexual women's issues. Adheres to HBIGDA standards of care. See
Jude Patton, CMHC, CMFT, PA-C
Therapist in private practice, specializing in transgender and intersex issues, but also providing services to the gay, lesbian, and bi communities. AASECT certified, and on the board of FTM International and Ingersol Gender Center. Experienced in referrals for hormone therapy and surgery, and the associated HBIGDA requirements. See

Health Care

HIV/STD Testing

For HIV/STD testing and Hep A/B vaccination referrals, visit the King County Public Health Site at (though most people seem to end up going to the Harborview STD Clinic, which offers HIV testing as well as the full spectrum of STD tests, including the Herpes I, Herpes II, and Hepatitis C tests upon request: call 206-744-3590 to make an appointment with them directly).

Reproductive Health and Contraception

See for a list of Seattle's Planned Parenthood clinics, and for details on a state government program under which free contraception services (even including tubal ligation and vasectomy) are made available to residents who could not otherwise afford them.

Emergency contraceptive pills (i.e. special doses of birth control pills which can reduce the chances of pregnancy up to five days after condom failure) are available at most Washington State pharmacies, generally with no requirement for either a prescription or prior visit with a physician.

Counseling and Therapy (in alphabetical order)

Gaelen E. Billingsley, MA, ABS
Offering relationship therapy. See
Rebecca Bloom, ATR-BC, LMHC
Individual counseling for people of all sexuality and gender identifications, using talk and art therapy. BDSM, D/s, and polyamory folks welcome. Specialties in anxiety, depression, life transitions, and PTSD. Insurance accepted. See
Joy Davidson, Ph.D.
Licensed as a marriage and family therapist, an AASECT certified sex therapist, and offering psychotherapy, couples therapy, and sex therapy. Author of the book Fearless Sex, and a sex advice columnist for several national magazines. She has experience with a wide range of clients and lifestyles including transgender, poly, BDSM, and gay/bi. See
Atta Dawahare, MHP, LMHC
A polyamory-friendly therapist working with clients of all sexual orientations, religious beliefs, and gender since 2002. See
Kristen Knapick, MA, LMHCA
A mental health counselor associate who specializes in working with those for whom kink, polyamory, sex work, queerness, or gender variance are a part of life, whether the source of a problem or not. She has lengthy experience with each of these communities, and a non-judgmental perspective on mental health within them. See
Roger Libby, Ph.D.
Lecturer, co-author of the textbook Sexual Choices, fellow of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sex, and board-certified sex therapist. Experienced with sexual and relationship counseling, as well as marriage counseling. See
Genjo Marinello, MA, LMHC
A state licensed mental health counselor with an M.A. in Psychology and a degree in spiritual direction from the U.B.C. Vancouver School of Theology, Genjo has extensive counseling and therapy experience with sexual minorities, including concerns related to BDSM and other forms of alternative sexuality. As a Buddhist priest and a Quaker, he also serves as a spiritual director with the Anamchara Multifaith Center for Sexual Minorities. His office number and e-mail address are 206-328-3944 and
Ray Robbins, MA, MHP
``I provide thoughtful and compassionate counseling to clients of all sexual and relational orientations. A great many of my current clients come to me from Seattle's sex-positive, and polyamorous communities, and I enjoy helping people with sex and sexuality issues. I am kink friendly and honor and respect clients working in the sex industry. I am also experienced in helping others with addiction and chemical dependency issues. I can be reached at 206-679-0908 or''
Sharon Sanborn, MA, LMHC
Offering counseling, art therapy, and hypnotherapy for individuals and couples in Queen Anne, Seattle. Welcoming to alternative lifestyles and GLBTQ. Poly and kink friendly. Insurance accepted. See
Seattle Institute for Sex Therapy, Education, and Research
Providing quality sex therapy to the Seattle community since 1975, staff therapist credentials include ABS certification and clinical fellow status with the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists. See
Eileen Stein, MSSW, LICSW
A clinical social worker and psychotherapist who works with both individuals and couples. Nonjudgmental and alternative-lifestyle aware, her web site also indicates experience in counseling alternative routes to conception and parenting for straight, gay, and lesbian couples. See
Kate L. Stewart, MA
A kink and poly friendly psychotherapist based in Seattle, focused on working with alternative sexual and gender identified clients and people who are going through transitions in their lives. See

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