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David Steinberg, editor of The Erotic Impulse, Erotic by Nature, and Photo Sex, has given us permission to host this archive of his Comes Naturally columns, most of which were published in San Francisco's Spectator magazine.

Comes Naturally #158 (January 16, 2006): Beyond Predators and Victims: The Not-so-Sensational Story of Debra Lafave and her 14-Year-Old Student
Comes Naturally #157 (August 2, 2005): What I Did on My Summer Vacation: A Jaunt into Sexual Disneyland
Comes Naturally #156 (May 30, 2005): Masturbating the Month of May
Comes Naturally #155 (April 7, 2005): Jamison Green, Sex, Gender, and the Question of What it Means to Be a Real Man
Comes Naturally #154 (February 18, 2005): Looking Back Over One Year: A Photographic Remembrance of San Francisco's Same-Sex Marriage Revolt
Comes Naturally #153 (November 28, 2004): Everybody's Sin is Nobody's Sin: Alfred Kinsey and the Breaking of Sexual Silence
Comes Naturally #152 (October 21, 2004): Vote for Sex
Comes Naturally #151 (September 17, 2004): Lap Dancing in San Francisco and the Evolving Face of Sex Work in America
Comes Naturally #150 (August 30, 2004): A Romantic View of Sadomasochism
Comes Naturally #149 (June 19, 2004): Sexual Photography Beyond the Sex Ghetto
Comes Naturally #148 (May 21, 2004): Faces of Ecstasy
Comes Naturally #147 (April 23, 2004): Sex Worker Self-Determination: The Lusty Lady Workers' Coop After One Year
Comes Naturally #146 (March 19, 2004): Not Playing by the Rules
Comes Naturally #145 (February 13, 2004): Don't Worry: Everything's Under Control
Comes Naturally #144 (January 26, 2004): Two Hundred Pounds of Fun
Comes Naturally #143 (December 11, 2003): A Different America
Comes Naturally #142 (November 11, 2003): Exploring the Gender Frontier
Comes Naturally #141 (October 17, 2003): The Art of Sex
Comes Naturally #140 (September 19, 2003): Bits and Pieces: Sexual Signs of the Times
Comes Naturally #139 (August 22, 2003): Under Nude Management
Comes Naturally #138 (July 25, 2003): A Massive Disruption of the Current Social Order
Comes Naturally #137 (June 27, 2003): Sluts Unite: The Politics and Art of the Third San Francisco Sex Worker Film Festival
Comes Naturally #136 (May 30, 2003): Spirit Made Flesh
Comes Naturally #135 (May 2, 2003): Life to Hold On to While Death is Passing
Comes Naturally #134 (April 4, 2003): As Universal As It Gets
Comes Naturally #133 (March 7, 2003): Strip Club Guys: Who Are Those Masked Men?
Comes Naturally #132 (February 7, 2003): A Good Man in a Bad Time and Place
Comes Naturally #131 (January 10, 2003): No Apologies: The Story of Jack McGeorge
Comes Naturally #130 (December 13, 2002): Three is Not Always a Crowd
Comes Naturally #129 (November 15, 2002): R.I.P. Gwen Araujo
Comes Naturally #128 (October 18, 2002): New York's Thoughtful New Museum of Sex
Comes Naturally #127 (September 20, 2002): Surrendering to Sex
Comes Naturally #126 (August 30, 2002): God Bless America - The Photography of Charles Gatewood
Comes Naturally #125 (July 26, 2002): Of Presidential Assholes and Related Erogenous Zones
Comes Naturally #124 (June 28, 2002): It's the Sex, Stupid!
Comes Naturally #123 (May 31, 2002): But the Emperor Has No Clothes
Comes Naturally #122 (April 19, 2002): The Myth of the High School Slut
Comes Naturally #121 (April 5, 2002): Foot Worship
Comes Naturally #120 (March 8, 2002): First Time
Comes Naturally #119 (February 1, 2002): Taking It All Off
Comes Naturally #118 (January 11, 2002): Standing Up to Be Counted
Comes Naturally #117 (December 14, 2001): Visions of Sugar Plums
Comes Naturally #116 (November 13, 2001): Danger, Sexual and Otherwise - Juggling Fear, Safety, and Freedom
Comes Naturally #115 (September 30, 2001): Scattered Thoughts in a Scattered Time
Comes Naturally #114 (September 21, 2001): Silencing the Body Electric
Comes Naturally #113 (August 24, 2001): Hedwig's Angry Inch
Comes Naturally #112 (July 27, 2001): Photographing Sex
Comes Naturally #111 (June 15, 2001): A Gender Odyssey
Comes Naturally #110 (June 1, 2001): Last Macarena in Vegas
Comes Naturally #109 (April 29, 2001): Oh, Them Dirty Pictures
Comes Naturally #108 (March 30, 2001): Bad Day at the Media
Comes Naturally #107 (February 27, 2001): Hannibal Lecter, Good, Evil, and the Yearning for Integrity
Comes Naturally #106 (February 9, 2001): Let Them Eat Chocolate
Comes Naturally #105 (January 12, 2001): Bush League Sex
Comes Naturally #104 (December 15, 2000): Morality, Yes; Moralism, No: An Ode to the Marquis de Sade
Comes Naturally #103 (November 24, 2000): The Largest Gathering of Transgendered People in the World
Comes Naturally #102 (October 20, 2000): Live Nude Girls Unite!
Comes Naturally #101 (September 22, 2000): Pornographic Rites of Passage
Comes Naturally #100 (August 25, 2000): The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
Comes Naturally #99 (July 28, 2000): Of Sex, Honor, Power, and Control
Comes Naturally #98 (June 30, 2000): Where I Leave Off, Where You Begin
Comes Naturally #97 (June 2, 2000): The Ladies of Rylstone
Comes Naturally #96 (May 5, 2000): Without a Room of One's Own
Comes Naturally #95 (April 7, 2000): Sex/No-Sex: The Medium is the Message
Comes Naturally #94 (March 10, 2000): In the Eye of the Beholder
Comes Naturally #93 (February 11, 2000): A Golden Globe for Brandon Teena
Comes Naturally #92 (January 14, 2000): With the Intent to Sexually Arouse
Comes Naturally #91 (December 17, 1999): How Many XXX's Does it Take to Spell Millennium?
Comes Naturally #90 (November 19, 1999): Forward Motion
Comes Naturally #89 (October 22, 1999): Sexual Photography Comes of Age
Comes Naturally #88 (September 24, 1999): The 'Sex Guru': A Sordid [and Not-So-Sordid] Tale
Comes Naturally #87 (August 27, 1999): Saving the Pseudo-Children from Virtual Abuse
Comes Naturally #86 (July 30, 1999): Celebrating the Great Celebrator
Comes Naturally #85 (July 2, 1999): Celebrations of Diversity - Trekkies Review
Comes Naturally #85 (July 2, 1999): Celebrations of Diversity
Comes Naturally #84 (June 4, 1999): Naked Libido
Comes Naturally #83 (May 7, 1999): Art and the Eroticism of Puberty
Comes Naturally #82 (April 9, 1999): To Thine Own Self Be True
Comes Naturally #81 (March 12, 1999): Decorating the Temple of God
Comes Naturally #80 (February 12, 1999): The Sixties and the Eroticization of Everyday Life
Comes Naturally #79 (January 15, 1999): Libido et Veritas
Comes Naturally #78 (December 18, 1998): The Sexual Family
Comes Naturally #77 (November 20, 1998): To Ship a Photograph: Craig Morey, Nudity, and DHL Worldwide Express
Comes Naturally #76 (October 23, 1998): Not a Farce: Adrian Lyne Brings a Complex Lolita to the Screen
Comes Naturally #75 September 25, 1998): My Karma Has Just Run Over My Dogma: Addressing the Sexual Conflicts of Feminist Men
Comes Naturally #74 (August 28, 1998): Viagra and the Pursuit of Perfection
Comes Naturally #73 (July 31, 1998): Some Room of Their Own: Dancers Win Claim Against Mitchell Brothers, Organize in Anchorage
Comes Naturally #72 (July 3, 1998): Cybersex Access: Power to the People
Comes Naturally #71 (May 29, 1998): The Proud Sexual Roots of San Francisco
Comes Naturally #70 (May 1, 1998): Victoria Woodhull, Women's Suffrage, and the Politics of Free Love
Comes Naturally #69 (April 3, 1998): Dangerous Beauty; Bent; Jock Sturges Under Attack; Sex in Taxicabs
Comes Naturally #68 (March 6, 1998): The Odd Ways We Get To Talk More Freely About Sex
Comes Naturally #67 (January 9, 1998): This Thing We Call Sex
Comes Naturally #66 (December 12, 1997): There Once Was a Union Maid...
Comes Naturally #65 (November 14, 1997): Embracing the Transsexual Menace
Comes Naturally #64 (October 17, 1997): Sexual Performance Art and Community: Two Gatherings of the Tribe; In Memory of Don Crane
Comes Naturally #63 (September 19, 1997): Girls Will Be Boys
Comes Naturally #62 (August 22, 1997): Of Penises, Nipples, and Harper's Magazine; Dr. Magnus Hirschfeld's Museum of Sexology; Mark I. Chester's Sexart 5
Comes Naturally #61 (July 25, 1997): Humane Views of Prostitution Come to Broadway and Television News; S/M Chic Takes a New Turn
Comes Naturally #60 (June 27, 1997): Maintaining the Myths of Monogamy, Military and Otherwise
Comes Naturally #59 (May 30, 1997): Kissed Kisses Where Crash Crashes; Erotic by Nature Seized by British Customs
Comes Naturally #58 (May 2, 1997): Lusty Lady Dancers Ratify Union Contract; Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Regional Conference Report
Comes Naturally #57 (April 4, 1997): The 1997 International Conference on Prostitution: A Milestone in the Growing Movement for Prostitutes' Rights
Comes Naturally #56 (March 7, 1997): I COP '97 and the Movement for Prostitutes' Rights; Annie Sprinkle's Latest Gems
Comes Naturally #55 (February 7, 1997): Larry Flynt Meets Albert Brooks: Some Thoughts on Sex, Class, Age, and Dear Old Mom
Comes Naturally #54 (January 10, 1997): Two Wonderfully Unglamorous Looks at Prostitution in Other Times; Eight Years After Marco Vassi
Comes Naturally #53 (December 13, 1996): Some Thought on the Word Made Flesh: Sex and the Holidays; 'Breaking the Waves'; Luann's Folks in Bed
Comes Naturally #52 (November 15, 1996): By the Time You Read This Everything Will Have Changed: Some Happy Thoughts on Bill Clinton, Bob Dole, Anne Rice and Where We Seem to Be Headed
Comes Naturally #51 (October 18, 1996): European Perspective: Notes from a Trip to Scandinavia
Comes Naturally #50 (September 20, 1996): The Fear of Touch; Diary of a Thought Criminal
Comes Naturally #49 (August 23, 1996): Of City Commissions, Prostitution, and One Knight Errant's Continuing Quest for the Holy Grail of Sexual Sanity
Comes Naturally #48 (July 27, 1997): Cupido's New Reader Survey on Photos of Women; Laughing with Striptease; Sexual Incursions into the Mainstream
Comes Naturally #47 (June 29, 1996): Assaults on Conventional Heartland: Rodman, Ryan, Ritual, and Restraint
Comes Naturally #46 (June 1, 1996): This Thing We Call Sex
Comes Naturally #45 (May 4, 1996): 'Touch' Photos at Good Vibes; Respecting the Sexual Needs of the Developmentally Disabled
Comes Naturally #44 (April 6, 1996): Censorship on the Internet; The San Francisco Task Force on Prostitution
Comes Naturally #43 (February 9, 1996): Taking from Peter to Pay Paul: Bijou Group Theaters Put Dancers on Payroll, Then Cut Their Tips
Comes Naturally #42 (January 12, 1996): Crossing the Public-Private Sex Boundary: An Ode to Sex Parties
Comes Naturally #41 (December 15, 1995): Sex and the American President
Comes Naturally #40 (November 17, 1995): Erotic Dancers Receive Cash Judgments for Wages in Oregon and San Francisco; Mitchell Brothers Next?; Mark I. Chester's Latest Sexphoto Show
Comes Naturally #39 (October 20, 1995): Women Who Put Sex Before Marriage; Animation Joculation
Comes Naturally #38 (September 22, 1995): Where Sex and Religion Meet; The Child Protection Restoration and Penalties Enforcement Act of 1990; Dillsberry, U.S.A.; Sexart 4
Comes Naturally #37 (August 25, 1995): Coast-to-Coast Cross-Fertilization; S/m Chic; Newt Gingrich, Cyberslut
Comes Naturally #36 (July 28, 1995): Crime and Punishment: Hugh Grant and the Politics of Prostitution
Comes Naturally #35 (June 30, 1995): Getting Real with Teens about Sex; A Little Wholesome Sexiness on the Streets of the City
Comes Naturally #34 (June 2, 1995): Sex on the Net: Thoughts on a Culture Being Born
Comes Naturally #33 (May 5, 1995): Sexy Male Nudes: Marcuse Pfeifer Gallery, 1978; Collector's Photography, 1986; Cupido's Women Readers, 1995
Comes Naturally #32 (April 7, 1995): Cupido Under Fire; Cyborgasm2: The Edge of the Bed
Comes Naturally #31 (March 10, 1995): Erotic Transformations; Blood Rituals; Mistress Kat's Fantasy Ball
Comes Naturally #30 (February 10, 1995): A Visit to San Jose's Swing Club; Changing of the Guard at On Our Backs
Comes Naturally #29 (January 13, 1995): Mother Jones Rejects Michael Rosen as Pornographic; Berkeley Almost Does the Same to Good Vibrations; Federal Express Takes a Stand for Sexual Tolerance
Comes Naturally #28 (December 16, 1994): Bits and Pieces: The End of the Sprinkle Salon; Satan and the Children; Teenage Morality in Iran; FTM Media Mania; A Sexy and a Not-So-Sexy Movie
Comes Naturally #27 (November 11, 1994): Exit to Eden; Raffaelli's Non-Rabid Prosecutor; Tussling with Layne about Natural Born Killers
Comes Naturally #26 (October 14, 1994): Thinking about Natural Born Killers [or: We Have Seen the Enemy and S/He Is Us]
Comes Naturally #25 (September 16, 1994): Midnight Musings on Sex as Discovery, the Lure of the Other, and the Hera-Aphrodite Dilemma
Comes Naturally #24 (August 19, 1994): Libido Editor Dismissed at Northwestern; New Definitions for Perverts; Teenage Lust; Michael Rosen's Book #3
Comes Naturally #23 (July 22, 1994): Saving Our Strippers
Comes Naturally #22 (June 24, 1994): Of Blood, Spandex, and Lesbian Enjoyment
Comes Naturally #21 (May 27, 1994): Bill Clinton's Underwear; Brazilian President Itamar Franco and the Lack Thereof; Rating Politicians on Sex; Notes from SSSS/San Diego; An Optimistic Look Forward
Comes Naturally #20 (April 29, 1994): Raffaelli Goes to Court; The Seven Addictions and Five Professions of Anita Berber; Changes at Future Sex
Comes Naturally #19 (April 1, 1994): Three Collisions between Sexual Sanity and Sexual Fear: The Serious and Not-So-Serious Tales of Ron Raffaelli, Martin Keogh and Michael Rosen
Comes Naturally #18 (March 4, 1994): Antisexualism: A Basic Question of Who's Abusing Whom; Eroticism Moves Uptown at the Robert Koch Gallery
Comes Naturally #17 (February 4, 1994): How the Sexual Frontier Moves into the Mainstream: Playboy and Piercing; Philadelphia and Homophobia; Tales of the City and Gay Kissing; The Latest SEXART Salon
Comes Naturally #16 (January 7, 1994): Porn Studies at the Society for the Scientific Study of Sex, or Who's Idea Was It to Let Porn Teach the Children About Sex?
Comes Naturally #15 (December 10, 1993): Patti Davis, Patty Hearst, and Lorena Bobbitt: Guns and Knives and Bondage, Oh My!
Comes Naturally #14 (November 12, 1993): Sex Paranoia in the Insurance Industry; Annie Sprinkle Meets Pieman; Cunt Art; Saudek in San Francisco
Comes Naturally #13 (October 15, 1993): Here, There, and Everywhere: SEXART 3 Celebration; Cock Ring Ken; Photo Seizures in Britain; Upsets in Fresno; Hiding the Nipples in Santa Cruz
Comes Naturally #12 (September 17, 1993): Beyond Conventional Porn: Revelations; Real Women, Real Fantasies; The Good Vibrations Video Guide to Vibrators
Comes Naturally #11 (August 20, 1993): Art Attack Erotic Art Show; Mark Chester's Latest SEXART Exhibit; Planned Parenthood Says 'Just Say No'?
Comes Naturally #10 (July 23, 1993): Future Sex Comes of Age; Cyborgasm and the Birth of Sexual Radio
Comes Naturally #09 (June 25, 1993): Tales of New York: A New York Play Party; Abe Hirschfeld's Sexy Statue; 'Rated X' Photo Show; Sexual Art at the Whitney Museum; Penny Arcade's 'Bitch! Dyke! Faghag! Whore!'
Comes Naturally #08 (May 28, 1993): S/M in the Media; Reaction in Britain; Of Sex Toys, Metal Detectors and Airport Metatheatre
Comes Naturally #07 (April 30, 1993): Tech Sex
Comes Naturally #06 (April 2, 1993): Paraphilopolis Journal; Sex and Theatre: The Duchess of Malfi and Unquestioned Integrity; Marco Vassi's Novels Reprinted
Comes Naturally #05 (March 5, 1993): On Sexual Objectification
Comes Naturally #04 (February 2, 1993): Crying Holy; Body of Evidence
Comes Naturally #03 (January 8, 1993): Marco Vassi; My Aunt Nettie; Where's Waldo?
Comes Naturally #02 (December 11, 1992): Bruce Herschensohn; Bill Clinton; Sexologists in San Diego; Future Sex 2
Comes Naturally #01 (November 13, 1992): Reactions to Madonna's 'Sex'; Vanity Fair's Hot Ads; Danielle Willis at Climate Theatre; Mark I. Chester's Sexart Salons
Review of World Pornography Conference
Review of The Erotic Lives of Women
Review of Badlands
Review of True Blood
Weapon or Toy?
Taking Power: An Interview with Bianca
To Be a Sexual Son
Interview with Jock Sturges
Susie Bright's Full Exposure
The Photography of Jan Saudek
Interview with Dave Hingsburger
To Be a Man: Boys Don't Cry and the Story of Brandon Teena
Photo Sex
Erotic by Nature
The Erotic Impulse: Honoring the Sensual Self

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