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Dr. William Henkin is the co-author of Consensual Sadomasochism, Bodywise, and The Psychic Healing Book, and editor of But I Know What You Want. He has given us permission to host this archive of some of his writings, which he will be adding to over time. His web site is at www.drhenkin.com

• Chapter 4: Lay Sermons
  • Lay Sermons: Essays and Chapters on Modern American Sexuality
  • Am I a Sexual Minority?
  • A Walk with Love and Death: In Memory of Leonard Dworkin
  • Pagan Faerie Piercing Rituals: An Editorial on Body Play
  • Body Modification for Its Own Good Reasons: A Letter to PFIQ
  • The Passing Revolution
  • The Myth of Sexual Addiction
  • Terms of Art: Psychotherapy with Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and Heterosexual Clients
  • Erotic Power Play
  • Bisexuality and BDSM
  • Coming Out Trans: Questions of Identity for Therapists Working with Transgendered Individuals
  • Multiple Personality Order: An Alternate Paradigm for Understanding Cross-Gender Experience
  • Infantilism: Clinical Diagnosis and Practical Explication
  • It's Never Too Late to Have a Happy Childhood: Infantilism and Erotic Age Regression
  • Katherines Beach
  • A Union of Love: Spirituality in BDSM
  • Off the Beaten Path: A Review of The Pain Game
  • Some Beneficial Aspects of Exploring Personas and Role Play in the BDSM Context
  • Interview with William Henkin
  • Entropic of Cancer

• Chapter 3: Introduction to Ask the Therapist
  • Bondage and Safety
  • SM and Psychotherapist Shopping
  • Fantasies: Clit Whips
  • Dissociating in Scene
  • SM and Kids
  • Alternate Personas and Multiple Personalities
  • Dominant Women and Self Esteem
  • Coming Out to Your Partner
  • Private Play at Parties
  • Emotional Safety
  • Is SM Sex?
  • Submission and Feminism
  • Submission and Power
  • In Love with a Transsexual: Am I Gay?
  • How Can I Get Her to Top Me More?
  • Submission and Masculinity
  • Needs and Wants
  • Piercings
  • Top's Disease
  • Nonconsensual Fantasies
  • Benefits of Master-Mistress and Slave Relationships
  • Why Do We Wear Black?
  • Jealousy
  • How Do I End a Relationship?
  • SM Recognition Signs and Leather
  • Psychotherapy in the Dungeon, Part I
  • The Femina Society
  • How Do I Negotiate?
  • SM and Childhood Memories
  • Gags and Hoods
  • Safer Sex and Party Rules
  • My SM Dad
  • Trust
  • Is Masochism a Learned Behavior?
  • The Bottoming Book
  • Humiliation
  • How Does One Develop a Command Presence?
  • Safewords, Breath Control, and Safety
  • How Do I Negotiate at a Party?
  • Who's Really the Top?
  • What Do I Do about a Dangerous Top?
  • Urine
  • SM Limerence
  • Scarves, and Play Parties
  • How Can a Bottom Top?
  • The Avanti Condom
  • SM and Sex, and Ending a Scene
  • Erotic Slavery
  • SM and Abuse
  • Is This SM?
  • Resources
  • Endorphin Orgasm
  • Bodywork
  • Why Are We Into SM?
  • I've Lost Interest in Vanilla
  • Play Parties
  • SM and TransGender Issues
  • If I Grant Her Fantasy, Am I Still the Top?
  • Submission, Worship, and Slavery
  • Piercing Safety
  • Nurturing Top
  • Spiritual SM
  • How a Top Can Bottom?
  • Cross-Gendered Tops
  • My Wife Thinks SM Is a Sin
  • SM or Abuse?
  • Needs in Conflict
  • Self-Inflicted Violence
  • Foot Fetish
  • Safewords, and Spanking
  • Trance from Topping
  • Coming from Whipping
  • Spanking Negotiation
  • Negotiation and Limits
  • Abuse Fantasies
  • Control
  • SMers as Nice Folks
  • An SM Closet
  • Old Style Play
  • SM and MMPI
  • Scat
  • Aggression
  • Masochism, Violence, and Abuse
  • How Can I Discover My Own Childhood Abuse?
  • SM as Need vs. SM as Fun
  • Do Some People Really Only Top or Bottom?
  • Consensual Non-Consent
  • Therapy in the Dungeon, Part 2
  • Since I'm Her Master, Why Can't I Do What I Want?
  • How Can a Novice Dom Bring Out a Reluctant Man?
  • Adding SM to a Vanilla Relationship
  • I Have Always Been a Top!

• Chapter 2: Introduction to the Professional Dominant Interviews
  • Interview with Mistress Cleo Dubois
  • Interview with Mistress Kira
  • Interview with Mistress Midori
  • Interview with Mistress Morgana
  • Interview with Mistress Reba
  • Interview with Mistress Ilsa Strix
  • Interview with Mistress Sybil Holiday

• Chapter 1: Yesterday's Papers: Introduction to Book Reviews, 1987 - 2001
  • Review of The Ethical Slut
  • Review of Let Me Count the Ways
  • Review of SM Classics
  • Review of The Bonds of Love
  • Review of Ask Isadora
  • Review of The Bottoming Book
  • Review of Susie Bright's Sexwise
  • Review of The Politics of Child Abuse
  • Review of Comix
  • Review of Conundrum
  • Review of Identity Management in Transsexualism
  • Review of Doc and Fluff
  • Review of Body Play
  • Review of Jerry Falwell v. Larry Flint: The First Amendment on Trial
  • Review of Against the Tide: Pro-Feminist Men in the United States, 1776 - 1990
  • Review of Female Perversions
  • Review of Forbidden Fantasies: Men Who Dare to Dress in Drag
  • Review of Women On Top
  • Review of The Tradition of Female Transvestism in Early Modern Europe
  • Review of As We Are
  • Review of Gods of Love and Ecstasy
  • Review of Good Vibrations: The Complete Guide to Vibrators
  • Review of Harem: The World Behind the Veil
  • Review of Herotica: A Collection of Women's Erotic Fiction
  • Review of Hormones
  • Review of Hothead Paisan: Homicidal Lesbian Terrorist
  • Review of Psychosexual Infantilism in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression
  • Review of The Beautiful Room is Empty
  • Review of Intimate Matters: A History of Sexuality in America
  • Review of From Female to Male: The Life of Jack Bee Garland
  • Review of Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice
  • Review of The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual
  • Review of The Literary Companion to Sex
  • Review of Leiutenant Nun: Memoir of a Basque Transvestite in the New World
  • Review of Macho Sluts
  • Review of Gender Outlaw
  • Review of Sexualities
  • Review of Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men and Women, 3rd ed.
  • Review of The Erotic Mind
  • Review of The Armed Robbery Orgasm: A Lovemap Autobiography of Masochism
  • Review of In Full Flower: Aging Women, Power, and Sexuality
  • Review of The Petticoat Dominant
  • Review of Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy
  • Review of Sex in the Forbidden Zone
  • Review of Sex and Other Sacred Games
  • Review of The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine
  • Review of S and M: Studies in Sadomasochism
  • Review of Sex Changes
  • Review of Your Sexual Secrets: When to Keep Them, When and How to Tell
  • Review of Revelations: Essays on Striptease and Sexuality
  • Review of Transformations: Crossdressers and Those Who Love Them
  • Review of Trash
  • Review of Vested Interests: Cross-Dressing and Cultural Anxiety
  • Review of A Vindication of the Rights of Whores
  • Review of Working: My Life as a Prostitute
  • Review of The New Male Sexuality
  • Review of The Bride Wore Black Leather...
  • Review of Health Care Without Shame

The entire contents of this archive, including every essay and article written by Dr. Henkin that can be accessed through this site, are Copyright © 2009 by William A. Henkin, Ph.D. All rights reserved. Dr. Henkin is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT22960) in the State of California, and a Board Certified Sex Therapist and Clinical Supervisor in the United States (American Board of Sexology). A complete article published in this archive under Dr. Henkin's authorship may be reprinted in nonprofit organizations' newsletters if Dr. Henkin's name and copyright notice, as well as this archive's url, appear with the article. Please do not quote portions of articles out of context. Publications organized for profit must obtain written permission.